During a coffee shop date there are four things you want to keep in mind..
The less talking you do the better. Just be cool and let her do most of the talking. Even if you two are having a great conversation, you want to end the date within two hours. Leave her wanting more by ending the date on a good note by saying you have to run.
This increases the chances of a date two. Let her order first. By doing this you can avoid having to pay for her drink. You need to warm her up for the next date by doing some subtle touching.
This includes touching the jewelry on her fingers and wrists as you ask what they mean, and also some slight touching underneath the table. You gradually ramp up touching instead of shocking her system at once.
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The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first.
But they never did. My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience.
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The next day at your first coed softball game, both of you show up. You talk throughout the game when you can, not really paying attention to the score. After the game you pack up your things, walk her to her. Can I take you out for coffee sometime?
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Why is it the generic approach to asking somebody out? This is what happens when you ask somebody out. If you then backtrack to a coffee shop, what will you talk about? Most of the small talk and getting to know each other has been taken care of. Unless both of you are really open to expressing your deeper selves on your first official date, there is potential for a lot of awkward silence. Why not a stroll through the park?
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Especially if you own a dog. Or a walk through a local museum. An introductory pottery class. I am not advocating going back to the early 20th century where men woo swooning women in an effort to show off their sexual prowess and masculinity. What I am advocating is making yourself as memorable as possible, male or female.
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