Truvada is currently the only drug approved for PrEP, although other drugs are being tested for it. It is a once-daily pill that prevents HIV transmission, regardless if your poz sex partner is detectable or undetectable, regardless of condom use, regardless of gender. PrEP has changed the dating game. There are many gay men who are aware of their HIV-positive status and are not on medication.
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This past weekend in San Francisco, I met a gay man who is homeless and addicted to hard drugs. He survives through paid hookups arranged on Grindr, needle exchange programs, and selling on the street. Guys like him contribute to the spread of HIV, but to call them predatory, dangerous, and problematic is wrong and inadequate. Some of the most vulnerable parts of our populace — addicts, homeless queer youth, sex workers — get demonized for HIV while they live in a culture that offers few ways for them to get help. For many, their goal is to simply survive, not infect others.
Medication and prevention regimens like PrEP are the real ways we stop the spread. It also ignores the many healthy HIV-positive folks on treatment who are actively working to save our own. The imagery we have of AIDS patients from the the height of the epidemic are scarred into our collective memory. We need to see and remember them, but we also need to acknowledge that today the appearance of HIV is different.
How to Date an HIV-Positive Guy
HIV affects the young and old and everyone in between. Queer youth have greater risk of HIV infection than their straight counterparts, particularly if they live in remote places and lack support. They survived the worst of the plague, then caught it on a wild night out. Queer men of color do have higher risk of HIV infection, but the virus does not discriminate — we do.
The real discrimination happens in clinics and communities, school systems and gentrification, media and job markets — institutions that keep racism alive and keep queer people of color at greater risk. This was the first thing the doctor told me: Overnight, my long term health became something I had to take care of.
Dating While HIV Positive
Take it from me: His kindness, his understanding, his gentleness, his ability to apologize, his willingness to talk — these are the things you need to look for. There are many things wrong with this argument. There are many poz tops in the world. I got fucked by one yesterday.
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Yes, sex changes for poz guys. If anything, it just makes us more open to new ways of enjoying it. He looks really cute. Then you see him in the gym. He might, or might not, live across the country.
How to Date an HIV-Positive Guy
He might, or might not, use a dating site, a dating company, have, or not have, a personal ad somewhere. Try to stay open. There are no support groups, no social activities with other positive people out here; there are no retreats that those of us who are low-income can afford.
We as gay folk ignore our possible candidates for dating in this group. Sites like POZ Personals and options on dating apps have made it much easier to let an interested suitor know you status by reading your profile. Many, many guys know nothing about HIV and fear positive individuals as one would fear someone who had contracted the Ebola virus.
No matter how hot that guy looks, avoid an awkward, embarrassing or even violent situation by laying all your cards on the table at the appropriate time. The appropriate time is soon after meeting. Since then, I have not had so much as a second date with someone. Always the same result: They move on, and I need to find the strength to start looking again. Yet after 15 years, little hope remains of not dying alone—my greatest fear. Ironically, I have never had any medical issues. Just when others hear those three letters they make a fast exit.
Yes, he had alcohol; yes, there is a history of anger management incidents. Instead, worry about whether he makes you laugh, likes the things you like, and is good in bed. There will always be people who talk negatively about you, no matter what you are doing or who you are dating. So make them jealous by making yourself happy and not giving a damn about what others think. Tyler Curry May 7th, If you have a question, don't be afraid to ask it. Don't assume you are the only one who is afraid.