Personally i say walk away save your self the heartache.
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It never ends well to involve your self in other peoples relationships. IF you are to do anything i would say drop her a message saying something quick and simple. I don't understand why you are with this guy personally I get i have no right to question it either but I just want you to know i truely care for you I'm around if you need me other wise i have to move on. If she is making bad decisions then they are hers to make you cant really stop her without making things worse. Give her some space to come to you if things get hairy. Trust me when I say I do think she is worth it but I could be saying that to myself and I'm actually a glutton for punishment and not realize it.
Yeah I was not planning to try breaking them up. Cause I get trying to break them up makes me look bad and well I don't think she will believe me right now anyway with the honeymoon phase going on. I do have some horrible stories of him acting like a massive jerk but I promised the person whose stories were about not to involve them and I agreed. I truthfully don't blame the person for not wanting to be involved. Sigh wish there was a way to help her realize that but yeah right now I feel there isn't. I think I need the space like you suggested cause I am really not handling this well.
It is affecting me physically. Can't eat, can barely sleep, puking, etc are being caused by this. Oh nothing like unrequited love You are her friend for 8 years really not even friends on your side because you have feelings for her. You need to move on and find someone who is into you Can't be said any clearer friend. We're not trying to harm you here, we are trying to help you to help yourself. Zombie Send a private message. Let her go dude.
You missed your chance with her a long time ago, and she doesn't sound like that great a partner alcoholic, severe depression. You can do better and it's not healthy to dwell on her. It doesn't change anything. She's got a drinking problem and untreated mental health issues. Attaching yourself to her will only make your own issues worse. Think about it, you're depressed.
Do you really need the knowledge that your GF is an alcoholic added to the list of things that can bring you down or cause you to worry? You can't save her and like someone drowning she'll drag you down with her. Being with her if she is even interested in that isn't going to make you happy in the long run. The idealized notion of her that you have won't last in the harsh light of the real world. Dude I am not on meds for my issues if that is what you mean by untreated. So I fail to see how that is a problem. I stopped the meds as I found they made my problems worse and have been dealing with day by day.
She was doing great till she moved back. I think the stress of that and looking for a job got to her. I think she will get better but she needs to be free of some bad influences some of her friends were who got her into drinking and were buying her drinks. Probably more then she needed. And hell I grew up with a sister with bipolar I know how mental illness is and how to handle it. Edited on February 2, at If you took offense that wasn't my intent.
My point is and was that, her problems will make your problems worse, not better. Dude I take mental health issues seriously. Like I said grew up with a sister with bipolar and I know how bad it can affect someone. Trust me when I say what she is going through is nothing compared to what my sister was like 10 years ago. I get she has mental health issues and I have known for years. So do I before this stuff happened we were helping each other out with it when she she was in Texas.
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I get the stress of the move and and job search and having no way to contact people like me probably is what is causing this. I get massive anxiety attacks from the old job I just quit so I could focus on school. Been there done that and I can tell you that my feeling is that it will not proceed any further then friends, if even that is salvage. Can't wish upon rainbows, man.. If she wanted it to happen, it would be happening. Her excuse was just that, a way to let you down easy, it was not as the movie quote goes code for, "try harder". Flip it and think about how you would let down a women friend that you had no interest in.
Hurts, but you have to accept that, go through whatever you have to, and move on. There will be other loves in your life. Well for the letting a girl down I would not be saying we can discuss this when I get back or even agreeing that you are ok to go on a date. I would tell her I am not interested. She never did that. She did the above. I was making a point as to how people let others down, not the exact wording. Regardless of how you do it, that is how she did it, that is how a great many women do it. You need to stop searching for excuses and look at the reality here.
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You also need to learn from this, and next time you have feelings for a woman, act on them when you have them. But how could I when she was not in the country? Has she been out of the country for 8 years? Guy, I'm trying to help you here. You need to let it go. Actually she was for a time previously of around a year and when disappeared for a bit it was nearly 2 years.
She disappeared due to a massive depression and did not want anyone to see her, We reconnected back she was on this current Texas trip that lasted longer then planned. Every time she was supposed to come back a delay would happen. The other 2 years at first were were working the same job and then she quit and we would occasionally hang out but we could never really get a chance to hang out too much as I was working nights but we would talk all the time. She disappeared right when I was about to ask her out at that time.
During that entire time I was not pinning for her.
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The feelings came back like 6 months after we reconnected. Edited on January 31, at DoctorDoom Send a private message. The best way to get out of the friendzone is to never put yourself in the friendzone to begin with. You are more than a day late, and more than a dollar short.
Live and learn - next time you meet a woman of potential romantic interest - don't befriend her - FLIRT with her Maybe she wont feel it - but it sure better than wasting 8 years of your life pining for someone you had mislead about your intentions because you were too gutless to make a move. I did try and make a move after we reconnected after not talking for 2 years. She said she didn't want a long distance relationship and we talk about when she got back. But her trip back kept getting delayed and then this happened. I made a move about 10 months after we started talking again more so 8 as was it was the occasional email at first which itself 6 months after I got over my ex.
I was also flirting with her the entire time after I got over ex. Nicholas Send a private message. Man, I am really feeling for you right now.
I’m dating my best friend’s ex and she won’t speak to me
It seems so unfair doesn't it? That your crush could so easily overlook you - and for a jerk no less…. Does this story sound familiar to anyone else besides me? You are learning a hard lesson right now.