And he honestly presented this as though it were a compliment. What did my dumb butt do? Paid for almost all of our dates, carted him around to everything he needed to do work, school, etc.
The Difference Between A Man And A Woman’s Worst Online Dating Fears Will Shock You
If not for some amazing friends who pointed out how badly he treated me and how much I was putting into the relationship, I may have stayed with him, believing he was all I could get. My husband has always been thin, but thankfully, has never given me the impression that my weight has caused him to treat me any differently. So what does it say about a person who freaks out when they discover the person they thought looked good in the photo turns out to have been editing in the hopes of getting someone to actually bother to meet them?
That she is deaf? That she had recently lost a lot of weight? That she wore colored contacts in the picture? That she plans to wear the colored contacts on the date? I can understand looking askance if the picture was of someone else, or is the one form their high school yearbook, and they graduated in But anyone could suddenly gain a lot of weight over the course of a year or two and truly believe they will look like their old picture again one day. I would be very angry if someone failed to mention they were deaf or in a wheelchair. Maybe there are good reasons for that, or at least the person feels there are good reasons.
And depending on the specific situation, I might be inclined to listen to an explanation, but it clouds a potential new relationship in an aura of mistrust, which to me is just not a good way to go. I met my husband before internet dating was a popular thing on a telephone dating line, so before the era of instant photo swapping. I always avoided all the men who listed a specific body type, even if it fit my own.
However, I do think if you go into a date having misrepresented how you look, you are very naive if you expect the other party to just be okay and accept that. And this is where I run into particularly irritating issues with the fat suit stunts… I have plenty of stories I can share of men who knew, from me telling them I was fat, and did not listen to me, and then they acted like assholes as if I was to blame for their inability to hear what I plainly said. Plenty of fat men and women are dating right now. Oh, and… they may stumble on happy stories, like my own, where I eventually DID meet an amazing man, for whom how I look is really irrelevant.
He loves me for who I am. Which means, even if something horrible were to happen to me to affect my physical appearance? So many of my thin friends worry about gaining weight and losing their partners. I have to wonder if these people are so concerned about honesty, would they react the same way if the date was thinner or taller in person?
My guess is no. Also, if this is about a personal preference which people are allowed to have , and the online dating was aimed at someone with a preference for fuller figured, curvier bodies, then yeah, they might be as upset and not see thinness as a bonus. But there are cases where ruling out groups of ppl based on phyisical characteristics not only but too ist in my opinion ok. I met someone who had noticeably less hair than his profile picture.
This 'social experiment' sent people on Tinder dates wearing fat suits
It just made me think about how visually specific we have become about dating. They just possibly could have had the sense they were being played for some stunt. And of course women are generally nicer in social situations anyway. And not dissing anyone who is shaped like her, either. So, I get that there are some people out there who are absolutely militant about honesty.
- Online Dating in a Fat Suit – Dances With Fat.
- Now man in fat suit tricks women on Tinder dates – with surprising results | Closer.
- Now man in fat suit tricks women on Tinder dates – with surprising results.
- middle eastern dating apps!
My aunt is one. She is fastidiously honest and rule-following in every aspect of her life, even when it makes things more difficult for her. I really think that if she were doing online dating, she would be just as irritated, disappointed, suspicious, etc. And if I believed that every guy in those videos was like that, then I would give them a pass on, or at least be sympathetic to, the way they treated the woman in those videos. Because most people in the world are not like that.
COMMENTS (22)
And they were too shallow, and too incapable of exercising basic courtesy, to look past that for long enough to drink one cup of coffee. I was not impressed with the fat suit dates. I wish it had been more realistically done.
- You've seen how men react to their 'hot' blonde Tinder date turning out to be FAT.?
- Post navigation?
- The Appalling Responses To A Woman Who Wore A Fat Suit To Meet Her Tinder Dates.
I think it would have made a stronger point if the photos on tinder could have been her as she looked in the fat suit. This is a common thing I hear men complain about. So I think it would have been interesting to actually look at the reaction to that. I am single and have an online dating profile. Do I choose photos that are from flattering angles? But they are also still photos of me, they are what I really look like from one still frame angle , they are me at my real, current weight.
Wear a push up bra or one with padding? To suggest that doing these silly little things means one is a liar, and untrustworthy is absurd. Does that still count as having a terrible bias against people with certain physical characteristics? Setting aside the question of trying to raise my self esteem which is, admittedly, a valid point , is that something I should try to get over for its own sake?
I am not being hyperbolic. A basic understanding of photography teaches us that a camera is not and never has been though maybe someday it will be capable of capturing what the human eye is capable of seeing. By the mere act of taking a picture, you are manipulating the image of the subject of your photo. Her blog kind of reminds me of you Raven. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Facebook account. Notify me of new comments via email.
Notify me of new posts via email. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. If someone has a specific body size or physical appearance as a relationship requirement, I have to wonder what happens when time or circumstance changes the superficial? By continuing to browse, you agree to the use of cookies described in our Cookies Policy.
You may change your settings at any time but this may impact on the functionality of the site. To learn more see our Cookies Policy. This 'social experiment' sent people on Tinder dates wearing fat suits The results were somewhat unsurprising. By Valerie Loftus Thursday 25 Sep , 7: See more articles by Valerie Loftus. Contribute to this story: Please select the reason for reporting this comment. Please select your reason for reporting Please give full details of the problem with the comment How to enter the world of makeup if you are a complete and total beginner.
Seven beauty resolutions genuinely worth making for Dealing with a scabby friend and a man who finds his new mot irritating - it's time for Dear Fifi. Secret wedding woes, making pals, a commitment-phobic long-term fella, keeping the friends after a breakup - it's Dear Fifi. I'm worried that my boyfriend enjoys taking drugs too much - what can I do?
What to watch on TV tonight: Frank Ocean just shared his skincare routine and some tips for men who don't know where to start. Stuck for makeup stocking filler ideas? MUAs and beauty experts gave us their recommendations. Saoirse Ronan's Late Late interview reveals her struggle with self-belief. What to watch on TV this weekend. Virgin Media Television has best year ever with 'record' viewing figures.