I dating a christian

Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating.

That will never happen. I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us — if we let Him. I have found this to be true in my own life. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. In fact, most of them had many good qualities. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together. In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.

Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist? For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy. But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.

But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me. His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me. Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear.

Does it hurt to end a relationship? Of course it does.

After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one. It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband. We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me.

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However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened. For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy. But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me. His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.

Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. Does it hurt to end a relationship? Of course it does.

After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one. It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.

We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me. However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened. I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. Capable of being the spiritual leader in the relationship?

As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here. As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. The rest is history. We dated for about 10 months before he proposed.

With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future. And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated. I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work — and even be happy.

But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us.