Strict indian parents dating

I just don't understand how you can throw that away. I know it's cultural but I still just don't understand it. I'd rather break up for any other reason that his parents saying no ugh. Sorry for the rambling post. Thank you for your blog. I am a south indian male who came to US as a student, then graduated and have a stable career. Only child to my parents. I dated an american and married her. It was not a traditional wedding and yes we eloped. My parents were shocked but they accepted it as long as i was happy.

The person i got married did not want to do anything with my culture. No indian food, child was allowed to learn my language, would not talk to my parents even when they called to wish for wedding anniversary. She told them to get out of the house when they visited us. My parents did not say anything against her to me. They only wanted to see me happy.

My marriage ended in divorce.

Now i am dating a russian american who is very welcoming and kind. But we are having issues with my parents because they are concerned history will repeat itself. My gf and i are so lost and it has taken a big toll on our relationship. Alexandra - I am so happy that I stumbled across your blog and it has given me so much hope. I have been dating a Telugu guy for a little over 6 months and I am white. All of his friends know about me as well as his sister and cousins but his parents do not.

He comes from a very traditional family and he is not planning on telling his parents until he finishes school in a couple years. I was at first very upset about this because he has met my family and they love him. I felt as though him keeping me from his parents meant that he was ashamed or embarrassed. He is such a caring and sweet guy, but I was devastated at him not wanting to tell his parents. But your blog has really helped me to understand his situation So I just wanted to say thanks!

Hey girl, I am in the same situation as you. We have been dating for 3 years how i've managed to keep it a secret boggles my mind too , but my parents still don't know! I am graduating soon and planning on telling my parents and I'm trying to reach out to others in the same predicament and offer support. Don't give up, I know how hard it is on my end but also for my boyfriend, who is so so amazing.

Remember that he's keeping it a secret because he is serious about you, and doesn't want to screw it up with the additional drama that ensues when the parents find out! If you ever need to vent or need support, lemme know, I will provide you my e-mail!

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Hi, I'm glad that I came across this post. I'm facing the same problem. I'm Indian and my gf is white single mom with a black kid. We are dating since a year and my gf has issues with household chores and other normal tasks to be performed everyday in the house. I told her the importance of all these things in order to get approved for our marriage.

She's says she understands but she never tries much to improve and also I mentioned her to dress modestly and she told me she's is not gonna change herself and stuff. I guess you understand what I an trying to say but she never gets it. Please share some advice.

Here's my advice, as an American woman: Stop trying to change your girlfriend. Either you like her as she is or you don't. If you don't like it and don't want to be married to her because of the things you don't like, then leave her. Is this all that Indian men do - first they hook a girl and then change everything that the girl is or does? This is the reason why Indian women are unhappy in their marriages and always complain about their in-laws.

There is just no place for "live and let live". As an Indian woman, I feel sorry for the non-Indian women who fall in love with these control freaks. Please do not marry someone and abuse them to change. Change your own self first! I'm White woman and 25 years old. I'm from belgium and my indian boyfriend also.

We met at work and have a relationship about a year and almost three months. Everything is going great between us. He and his mum are now in India visiting family and he told his family about us They don't want my boyfriend to have a White girlfriend because sooner or later i would leave him or divorce him. And his parents are very much into sikhism and they want him to marry an indian woman who has the same beliefs and who will take care of them.

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But the problem is that even he told them about us and doesn't want to marry an indian girl they still keep looking for a woman. And i don't know what to do because i'm afraid they will force him to marry and at the end of this week his dad is also in India. And when he finds out he will do anything to have his son married with an indian woman. I'm really stressed and Just don't know what to do. We love each other and want to be together. He won't be back till end of the month so i'm afraid time is running out and pressure will be to high for him to keep saying no with all the emotional blackmail and stuff Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl in a relationship with a white guy for over a year now.

I told my mum about him during our 7 month mark and maybe not in the right way.

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Ever since then she has been tormenting me every time I see him or talk about him. We are both very committed to each other but it has effected my relationship with my mum badly. She eventually told my dad who wasn't happy and they both are trying to convince me that I'm making a big mistake and trying to control everything I do and are not letting me have my own space.

They don't want to meet or have anything to do with him, I believe I've made the right decision by being with him and I don't want to give up on my boyfriend because he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

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However, my parents are saying I have to make a choice between them or my boyfriend. I am not in a position to move out or live with my boyfriend as we both still live at home. Please can someone help me or give advice? I wish I could give advice but instead I can only relate all too well. I'm 20 and in the same position. During the semester my boyfriend is so eager to skype my parents with me, because he wants to see what they look like and he wants to get to know them. I so want to agree because I know once my parents drop their racism they'll love him, but at the same time I feel like at this point it'll just worsen the potential.

I don't want to tell him no because he's so eager but I don't think he'll ever understand how complicated Indian parents can be. Haiii,, i am a 20 year old girl from Germany and in a relationship with an South Indian for one year now. Even though we are sure about our love, he is confused how to tell his parents! There are few problems which make the situation even more difficult than it could be with a German wanting to marry an Indian.



First he has not a well-paid job to come to Germany. Secondly as he is in the marriageable age his parents are also trying to find him a nice Indian wife of their community. Thirdly his parents are not much educated so they don't speak English and they have actually no idea of western culture, not more than the common stereotypes. So do you have any advice how he can tell them? Or any suggestion how to start it? S Thank you so much, all the best for you and your love. So I'm on the other end of this. I'm an Indian girl who told my parents about my American boyfriend a few weeks ago.

Your blog made me so relieved. I am home for break but leaving in a few days. These past few days my mom has been going on about how "whites" don't care about each other. For them love is only for 4 days, after that they get divorced and move on. And live in relationships we never do that in India! Basically it's been a downpour of racial stereotypes, which my boyfriend isn't and its driving me insane.