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My mother passed away at the age of My father is a pilot and flies all over the world. I am so proud to call him dad. Yet I am the black sheep. I moved out of my parents house when I was 16, married at 19, and divorced at Now 32 with 13 and 11 year old daughters that live more than an hour away, I am finding myself falling back into the same patterns.
Hi Margaret, If I can give you any advice after the last 9 months of being with a narcisist that I loved dearly is. I have studied this now, spoken to many people. The the narcissist is not going to help you.
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You can only help yourself. I met a woman through friends who I feel in love with. The first real love connection since my divorce 4 years ago. This woman is one of the most attractive and intelligent women I have ever met.
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I would have children with her. She told me that she loved me but. I have never felt so alone as when I was with her. I couldnt understand how this person could say she loved me yet act in the reverse. I had to look at what she did not what she said. So always seeking the attention of men it was embarrassing.
As of I was not there. When it was in her interest, she would considered and loving, when we had no plans, I could get no attention from her. For my own sanity I had to leave. Constantly on Facebook posting photos and looking for attention. Rated how well get life was going by the number of likes. In the end I found her on to website that sought financial arrangements for love.
She blamed me that I was not giving her enough attention.
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My daughters could not understand why a grown up would behave the way she did. In the end my eldest daughter would joke. Walk away from someone who in done ways was so beautiful but in others so ugly and hurtful. She will not change. She will continue to hurry the next man and the next and the next. Confirmation for me was that the day we broke up, she went out that night and smeared herself all over Facebook with another man and disgusting comments of what they may have got up to.
I did not see them and the next night she claimed she was ill and she asked me to come over and stay the night so she had company. She had no words but just blame. But do much for the best. It hurts today still at the moment.
She was mentally ill. I deserve to be happy as well. You must leave and find happiness. I was married to a Narc who was 15 years younger than me. I met her when I was She was very attractive and following a whirl wind romance, we got married six months after we met. This was crazy behaviour but I had fallen completely in love with her and she told me that she loved me also. It took me about 2 months to realise that things were not right.
Her behaviour was really odd — always seeking the limelight and on a high one moment and crying with despair the next. She was manipulative and Had a massive sense of her own self importance. We had three beautiful daughters who are the love of my life. I provided my wife with everything that she wanted but in the end we split in very acrimonious circumstance and I have not spoken to her for 5 years. I was completely outclassed in deception and it is with some regret that I know it will never happen again. My life was nearly destroyed by this narcisicist but I managed to break free and I can now look ahead with a degree of confidence about my future.
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I think i may have just been in a relationship with one. I would like to talk to someone who knows more about this because i have never experienced anything like it until now. My girlfriend went out to run an errand on July 22nd and just now messaged me, she only wants her clothes back. Is this at all a good idea, or will this just give her another reason to keep jumping into my life as pleases? I am planning on leaving the state any day now, I need distance and reduced access to lick my wounds.
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I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Rita of Cascia endured years of abuse. I will keep you in my prayers and remember, none of this will matter in years time! Pray for me too please James. I am a Christian married to someone I suspect is a narcissist. Read up on narcissism. I was once in your position. I started my blog to help people like you NOT have to go through what I did!!! Margaret, leave the relationship. The sooner the better. But it is not real, or healthy by any means. I have been going through this for 16 years never married and always tried to fixed the problem.
Even though its hard!!! I have to do it for my son…all the best! It would be helpful to learn why you ended up in such relationship, to understand your own issues. This knowledge will be helpful in your healing. There is plenty of info on internet. But I ted to over analyze details to be able to apply them. Can someone please help me identify my personal behaviors. I find the description to vague , great deal possible the denial side is in high gear here. I also dated one before him. I just wanted to say…. There is nothing there.
We had relationship problems mainly with the red flags I was seeing. My observations of her behavior led me to believe she was cheating. She ultimately lead me to believe I was crazy and put me on a massive guilt trip for having called her on my suspicions. In all of this she made it about her putting on a big show about how much pain she was in due to me accusing her of cheating.
It was really pretty weird cause if you think about it, if your partner accuses you of cheating, and you are not, and they are clearly certain that you are… based on their obvious mental state…. Instead she made it all about her, with a total inability to be compassionate and put herself in my shoes, to share my feelings and my hurt.
I went on this torrential reading spree devouring every self help book I could get to try to understand and find center, regain my reason and wait for it??? Try to fix the situation. I was excited by the prospect of us working through the methods together to improve our relationship!!! She showed little interest.
Now to address what another said earlier, being in this relationship is a very lonely situation. She tells me she loves me in monotone with no visible emotion and yet the elephant in the room is her complete emotional unavailability!
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Did I mention the passive aggession and the silent treatment? Acts different at home and out in the world… constantly worried about her image. In case of confusion about my post above. I end up questioning in my own mind everything she says, not actually physically questioning her cause that would create a war zone here.
See if you can get into therapy with someone good. Nicole, your post was a long time ago but for anyone wondering if you yourself are a narcissist just take this survey. I can totally empathise with your experiences and I believe the comment about taking responsibility is very accurate.