20 year old dating 16 year old uk

Are you sure that you want to delete this answer? Most of the time people wouldn't even be able to tell that one of you is 16 and the other is Especially if the girl is 16 and the guy is Also that is 4 years a lot of married people have 4 years between them. If you keep it PG13 I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the 16 is either self sufficient or their parents support the relationship.

PS if the 16 year olds parents don't like it and are willing to go through the law based on where you live the 20 year old may get into trouble with the law. When I was 16 I thought it was completely reasonable. I never dated anyone at that age but I remember I believed that because I hate a crush on a lot of older men lol Now that I am 20, It really is wrong. A 16 and 20 year old are completely mentally incompatible no matter how "Mature" the 16 year old claims to be they will never be in the same place emotionally and physically as a 20 year old.

A 20 year old needs to stick with ppl around their own age and stop praying on kids still in high school. I couldn't imagine dating someone 16 and I'm Well I guess it is a O. K but it would be better a 18 year old dating a 20 year old or a 16 year old dating a 18 year old. No real problem as long as the law on "age of consent" where you live is set at 16 where it makes the 16 year old legal to date and have sex at that age.

Dude, her dad is a cop. Seriously, I would not touch this with the proverbial ten-foot pole. Right over there, other side of the tall grass, in front of the mall! I later found out about her age and decided that I shouldn't do anything about it. Quite apart from the age thing, I'd be wary of a relationship with someone who worked for a family member too. Maybe you don't plan on having sex. There's a chance you actually won't do that. You know who cares? Not your neighbors in twenty years when they find out they live next to a sex offender.

You can't prove you didn't have sex. Maybe she can't prove you did, but recent high-profile cases indicate she probably won't have to.

IMHO, that and the sex offender registry for "crimes" like this is a complete bullshit way of operating a justice system -- but, such is the system as it stands. Know that going in. If you lived in another state, where the age was 16, my advice might be different. But in today's legal climate, the advice to stay far away could not be made strongly enough.

I'll be honest I came here wanting people to tell me it was okay, I wasn't totally crazy to ask this chick out, because even though I had made up my mind, it was still bugging the hell out of me which should have been all I needed to know it was wrong. And I got that, some of you are saying do it, but even with the support it still just doesn't seem right for some reason.

I like to think of myself as having a more logical thought process then an average person so this whole thing has been driving me bonkers trying to figure out. You all make very good, and valid points, but I think pleeker and twistofrhyme bring it home, I know I could keep from bringing sex up, but if she wanted it I don't know if I could stop it, and therein is the biggest rub I guess. My biggest concern is and should be her, I don't want to hurt her or make her fear relationships at such an important time in her life for relationships.

As such I think I should just steer clear. I think you've made the right choice. It's a teenage girl thing. They don't want to be kids anymore, they want to be seen as mature by their friends and family. She probably looks like an adult, and acts like an adult, but upstairs, she's still a kid. And her dad's a cop. Like someone said, there's a reason they're called Jailbait. Echoing what others have said, it doesn't matter how "mature" she is, a 16 year old is in a totally different place, mentally and physically than a 21 year old.

To be frank, you might want to consider where you are psychologically that are you are even interested in this girl. Arizona sex offenders are routinely placed on lifetime probation, and have a lot of restrictions and invasions in their lives as long as they remain on it. You should be wary of any year-old girl lavishing you with attention. It's not just possible, but probable, that it's not really you she likes, but the simple fact that a year-old man is paying even the smallest bit of attention to her. Teenagers get very bored very easily. These relationships rarely work in the long run.

There are exceptions, of course, but in my opinion, even if you're totally in love with her, this is a very, very bad idea. I feel like I had plenty of self-confidence and positive sexual awareness at that age, but I remember being attracted to other people in their mid-teens rather than older people. I can't begin to read her mind any more than the rest of the people in this thread can , but just from what you're saying, it sounds like she's not even necessarily expressing sexual interest in you.

Beyond your own attraction to her, you're also being forced to think of this in sexual or potentially-sexual terms by a few other factors the laws, the fact that her dad's a cop. I think the best thing you could do is stay her friend and give her your support and advice as she navigates the landscape of relationships and sex in college.

I think it's really sad that some people in this thread are saying you can't be her platonic friend and should drop all interaction with her. But I do think you need to consider your relationship carefully and communicate with her VERY clearly from now on. I'm in agreement with Brittanie, but for slightly different reasons.

I think men have an easy time picking up younger women. Younger women, in my experience, want to learn everything that a more mature man can teach them. In the teens, a single year makes a big difference in terms of maturity. You've gone through the experiences of living on your own, finding work, and supporting yourself financially and emotionally.

A year-old still has Mommy and Daddy's support to fall back on if anything should go wrong.

You're well beyond that point-- do you want to have to sneak your girlfriend out of her parent's house to stay out late? Want to take her to get drunk with your friends? You're at different stages of life; its not to say that you can't love her or share an emotional bond, but I think it will be a fragile bond due to the difference in maturity and the barriers created by the law and social norms. She's probably enamored with you because you have so much more experience than her, which I entirely understand.

But at some point, you'll want someone who understands your experiences and can teach you a thing or two. Its easy for older guys to pick up younger women-- but I'm not sure if they satisfy our needs. I mean it - do not EVER let yourself be in any situation where the two of you are alone - without witnesses - in a social setting.

For her protection, and for yours. No matter how honorable your intentions or hers , there may be other people who may try to turn any opportunity into a chance to "get" you. Whatever you do together, do it in public - go to the zoo, concerts, parks, etc. In your case 0.

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Sorry, looks like you have to wait till you're 23 and she's Yeah, I know it's not a real rule but it does have a certain intuitive appeal. B On the other hand if you can keep it non-nude for a couple of years, then that's ok too ; posted by singingfish at 5: Chiming in, blackout, you are displaying unusual wisdom by leaving this opportunity on the table for a few years. There is really no upside to having this relationship at this point. Arizona society has issued its opinion on the issue, wrong or not.

You can fight City Hall on this concept, and maybe win, but it still means a fight. Fights are costly and since the 'other guy' is much bigger, your chances are slim to none in prevailing. Its wiser to avoid a fight. What's truly remarkable about Mr. Blackout, is that you are doing it in advance! This will come in handy over the next few decades. Congratulations on making a good choice and taking care of both of you. The "dad is a cop" angle is delightful. Are you freaking serious?

Wisdom in music yes, I know you plan to keep it non-physical: When true love knocked on my door, she'd just barely turned sixteen; And I was a little bit nervous, if you know just what I mean. But I heard somewhere that true love conquers all, and figured that was that, then I started havin' dreams 'bout bein' chased out of town wearin' nothing but my cowboy hat. I said, "No deal We did not actually have sex, though it was very difficult.

In the end, despite that she was very mature for fifteen, the age difference wound up being a problem. That little voice saying it doesn't seem right? Not too many people seem to comprehend the idea that she might actually want to have sex with you. This is a distinct possibility that complicates things further.

Shame about the law, but there it is. A friend of mine dated a girl that was under 18 in Phoenix, AZ. He was probably 19 or This was a few years back, so I don't remember exact age. But, he got consent from the parents and started dating this chick.